“A person is a fluid process, not a fixed and static entity; a flowing river of change, not a block of solid material; a continually changing constellation of potentialities, not a fixed quantity of traits.” -Carl Rogers

Seeing that my personality was not fixed but rather fluid, seeing that my past did not determine my future and that there was more to me than my previously demonstrated strengths, weaknesses, and issues has unlocked many new experiences in my work and life.

Before seeing the fluid nature of our personalities, I believed that the only way to create change or transform involved hard work, tracking myself, being vigilant with my issues, and somehow overcoming everything I believed was getting in my way, which mostly meant me!

I thought I was getting in my own way, and it was incredibly disheartening and discouraging at times. I would try harder, take more programs, process myself, psychoanalyze myself, or get others to process or psychoanalyze me. 

I always say that, for the most part, I was up for the challenge and had a good attitude. That said, it did feel like I was up against the boogie man at times, and I worried that the dreams I had for myself and my life weren't in the cards for me.

Here's what I was missing, I was so focused on what was wrong and what wasn't happening and trying to fix it all that I missed that there was more to discover about myself. 

My personality and behaviors aren't fixed, my potential isn't a set thing, and if I could let go of what I thought I knew about myself, I would discover more possibilities and a richer quality of work and life. 

By opening up to an understanding of the mind and an experiential knowing of our deeper nature, I discovered…

• Living in my thinking and believing most of my thinking was creating an illusion of limitation. The truth is there is latent and untapped potential available to all of us right here, right now.
• There is more to the story of what's possible than what has happened in the past.
• Beyond thought lies an incredible reservoir of resilience, creativity, new ideas, and well-being. This is our nature – our true nature.
• Processing, analyzing, & ruminating are not the path to new insight. Insights and shifts of consciousness happen without our effort, and in a more open and free internal state, we create an environment for fresh perspectives.
• Humans do really well in a free, open, and present mind. We access more states of flow and connection from this space.

And finally, probably of the biggest misunderstandings I had, slowing down, listening for the natural moment, and what wants to unfold does not make me lazy and is not passive.

Slowing down and listening for what is aligned for us, our unique path and wisdom creates momentum and inspiration. 

Following what works for others or other people's strategies pales in comparison to moving forward guided by our own wisdom – the wisdom meant for us.

When we SEE what is ours to see and do, when we SEE it for ourselves, we really SEE it — the way we are meant to. 

What comes through is meaningful and relevant to our lives and empowers and fuels all our doing from a place of profound alignment.

When we see beyond our past, beyond our ideas of what we can and can't do or what we should and shouldn't do, we hear our way. We hear our path and direction. 

Sometimes slowing down and moving forward from our nudges takes courage. A willingness to let go and trust. 

It may feel risky, but here's what I've noticed in my life and my client's lives…

It's a risk worth taking. 

While we may not have all the answers or guarantees, something beautiful and powerful emerges when we put our alliance towards those inner promptings, our hopes and dreams, versus our fears. 

What's nudging you? Where would you like to be more bold and courageous? What would you do if you trusted yourself and life more?

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