EPISODE #3
IT’S ME – I’M THE PROBLEM
with Aila Coats & Barbara Patterson
About This Episode
In this conversation, we take you behind the scenes into the moments every practitioner knows but rarely talks about – the times when a session goes sideways, the client shuts down, the group gets tense… and the real issue isn’t the other person at all. It’s us.
We share personal stories of getting triggered, getting attached, getting judgy, and unintentionally making things harder for the very people we’re trying to help. And we explore the power of that humbling realization: when something feels off, the first place to look is inside.
This episode shines a light on the subtle ways our internal climate shapes the field, how quickly our own conditioning can slip into the work, and the profound shifts that happen when we come back to neutrality, presence, and trust.
It’s honest, human, vulnerable, and full of laughter, and it highlights one of the most important truths on the practitioner’s path: our own growth is always part of the work.
Thank you for listening!
Show LINKS
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Meet Your Hosts
Aila Coats
A transformative coach, author of Coaching Teens Well, and creator of Coaching Well Mastermind, Aila has helped hundreds of coaches, parents, and leaders find their voice, serve deeply, and build thriving practices rooted in genuine connection. She’s known for her heart, wisdom, attunement, and ability to translate insight into tangible creation – helping practitioners embody what they teach in their own lives and work.
Barbara Patterson
Founder of Innerverse Global, Barb works at the intersection of human potential, transformation, and creation. Her work integrates spiritual intelligence with real-world impact — helping entrepreneurs, leaders, and practitioners bring awakening into their work and everyday lives. Known for her clarity, humor, and deep presence, she invites people into a direct relationship with their own knowing — and to live what they see.

